The Biggest Mistake A Leader Can Make

by joannalyns on February 2, 2012

Reprinted from: Forbes

by:Sandy Styer, Publisher in Forbes

Thanks to Procentus I’ve recently been introduced to a video blog from the Harvard Business Review on the biggest mistake a leader can make with ten insights from top academics and business thinkers. What they have to say may surprise you.

Top Ten Bad Behaviors

  1. Putting self interest first - Bill George, Professor, Harvard Business School and former Chairman and Chief Executive Officer of Medtronic
  2. Everything focused on the leader – Scott Snook, , Associate Professor, Harvard Business School and retired Colonel, US Army Corps of Engineer
  3. Becoming too enamored of their own vision – Gianpiero Petriglieri, Affiliate Professor of Organizational Behavior, INSEAD
  4. Acting too fast – Jonathan DoochinLeadership Institute at Harvard College
  5. Failing to embrace uncertainty - Dr. Ellen Langer, Professor, Harvard University
  6. Arrogance – Carl Sloane, Professor Emeritus, Harvard Business School
  7. Lacking self-reflection – Daisy Wademan Dowling, Executive Director, Leadership Development at Morgan Stanley
  8. Failing to live up to their espoused values – Andrew Pettigrew, Professor, Said Business School, University of Oxford
  9. Being Inauthentic – Scott Snook, Associate Professor, Harvard Business School and retired Colonel, US Army Corps of Engineers
  10. Betraying trust – Evan Wittenberg, Head of Global Leadership Development, Google, Inc.

Mistakes One through Three

Nine thinkers, ten ideas. Let’s take a closer look. We can loosely group mistakes one through three as this: leaders start to believe it’s all about them, mistake their organization role (and the perks that go with it) as their self-worth, and fail to look beyond their inner circle.

These are the executives who hold the mistaken notion that their world is theworld. They are entitled and cloistered; and all too often they find out firsthand that the gods hate hubris.

Mistakes Four through Seven

Mistakes four, five and six don’t fall far from the first three. Leaders who make these biggest mistakes think they have all the answers. Their attitudes are arrogant, their decisions often rash, and in a world that is changing as fast as ours they miss both the threat and opportunities of uncertainty.

These executives are likely to get blindsided by reality.

Mistakes Eight, Nine and Ten

Biggest Mistake Number Ten nicely sums up this group: leaders who betray the trust of others. This kind of betrayal may range from outright fraud and malfeasance to simply saying one thing and doing another, or having two sets of rules, say, one for themselves and their friends and the second for “other people.”

These leaders are always found out because people recognize inauthenticity.

Move from Self-orientation to Service-orientation

It’s interesting to me that not one of these top thinkers said the biggest mistake a leader can make is in not paying attention to the sales pipeline, or hiring the wrong people, or letting expenses get out of hand. All of these biggest mistakes have to do with fundamentally who the leader is. Their integrity. Their understanding of something bigger than themselves. The breadth of their vision.

I suggest that the single theme which runs through all ten of the biggest mistakes is simply that leaders who make these mistakes have forgotten one thing: they have forgotten that they are in their positions to be of service to a greater good.

We can debate whether it’s a character trait, some kind of hubris, which these leaders bring with them on their rise to the top, or whether they become more and more isolated, more surrounded by yes-men (and women) or some other combination of factors which pull them into the big mistake.

But the cure is the same no matter what the cause, and the cure is a continual focus on service – to customers, to employees, to shareholders and to society at large. The cure is to move from Self-orientation to Service-orientation.

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Get Your Ex Back – Use Strong Self Confidence

by joannalyns on February 2, 2012

Reprinted from:How To Survive An Affair

by:T.W. Jackson, Publisher in How To Survive An Affair

Break up is not that uncommon, all adults have tasted it during their life, most of the time these events are forgotten and life moves on.

There are some people who never come up with such an eventuality and desperately want to get their ex-lover back into their life. It is quite possible that your ex will come back to you provided you are ready to walk an extra mile. If you’ve gotten yourself into this situation, are you willing to put in the extra effort to dig yourself out?

In fact it has been seen that 90 % break ups can be saved, if you only know few proven steps and follow them religiously. When you read this article completely, you will realize how easy it is to get your ex backwithout pulling your hair out.

Are you ready? Let’s begin!

The first step to fixing a damaged relationship is to know exactly the causes which were responsible for the break up. Once you have diagnosed the causes, it is very easy to learn from your mistakes.

There are chances that break up must have occurred due to some specific event or may some behavior which was not liked by your ex. Whatever be the causes, once you know them, you are in a better position to deal with the situation later on. You have to follow some steps to make the relationship stronger so that the break up does not take place in the future.

Another important step to win your ex love back is that you should not project yourself as needy, even though you desperately want to have your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend back.

You should not let your ex know that you cannot live without her/him. You have to be strong enough and pose as nothing has happened in your life and you are as normal as before. This is looking into basic human psychology, when you can get something easily, usually you will not cherish it. You want to be cherished, don’t you?

Your self-confidence and your good mood should always be maintained, your neediness or desperation will not bring your ex closer to you, rather, it will just push your ex away from you. It is your confidence which will compel your ex to crawl back to you.

There are many web sites which will show you exactly how you should behave in such situations; you will learn what to say and when to say. Fire up Google and do a search for such web pages. Spend some time reading and learning the correct techniques.

These simple techniques can do wonders and your ex will realize that a mistake has occurred in leaving you. These steps can work miracles and make your ex jealous which is very important tool for you to get him or her back.

The other partner will realize that the breakup had no impact on you and you have moved on nicely. This will create a sense of your importance in the eye of your ex. Therefore, it will bring your ex one step closer to you. It is very weird how we human beings think. When it comes to relationship, what we think is true is usually the opposite.

Even if you see your ex going out with another person, it should not make you upset, in any case you cannot stop it. The best way is to arrange a small meeting and sort out the differences through a proper discussion.

Behaving like a child or being needy will mar all your chances of reunion. Your right behavior and approach will help you in this mission.

Project a strong self-confidence. This confidence will make both of you realize that two of you are great, though there might be little differences.

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Yoga Competition: Listen Before You Judge

February 2, 2012

Reprinted from: MindBodyGreen
by:Chloe Hallock, Pubisher in MindBodyGreen

Competition. It is really an unavoidable part of life. It begins at a young age, out of all your friends, who could climb a tree the fastest? Who had the prettiest hair, you or your best friend? These now laughable worries felt monumental back in the day. As we [...]

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30 Amazing Facts About Your Brain

February 2, 2012

Reprinted from:Life Coaching
by:Tim Brownson, Publisher in A Daring Adventure
Useful Self Development Brain Stuff
1. You have a finite amount of will power each day because to exercise will power you need energy in the form of oxygen and glucose That’s why it’s harder to say ‘no’ when you are tired or not feeling yourself.
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Secret Agenda’s Running Your Life Coaching Income

February 2, 2012

Reprinted from: Coaching Tips
by:Jeanine Yoder, Publisher in CoachesTrainingBlog
Life Coaching income takes dedication to create, so lets get rid of those secret agenda’s running defeating your ability to receive financial abundance.
What is a Secret Agenda?
Secret Agenda’s come in many forms. Have you ever said to yourself “I don’t want this to ever happen again and I’m going [...]

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